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Murphy Geer Toerner

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Austin TX and Baton Rouge, LA, United States
I enjoy helping people. I am an encourager and I can see the good in others. I want people to understand what it means to be an authentic Christian and not just a religious "nut." I believe if Christians lived and loved others as Jesus lived and loved others, we would experience more of heaven on earth than hell on earth. These thoughts and writings are intended to encourage you to be who God originally designed you to be. They are also intended to challenge you and make you think. Also, I want you to know that I'm praying for you every day. Blessings, Murphy Blessings to you, Murphy

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

New Videos from GodTube

Dear Friends,
I thought that these were deeply encouraging.
I hope you enjoy them.

Love,
Murphy

This one describes Jesus ...
http://www.godtube.com/view_video?viewkey=572b18853b3948570fad


This one is about a "double-amputee" who has learned to be more than a conqueror.
http://www.godtube.com/view_video?viewkey=3a44ada9659d13ab2f1a

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Life Is ...

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So, love the people who treat you right and ask God to help you love, endure, or tolerate the ones who don't. Believe in the sovereignty of God ... everything happens for a reason (even when the reason isn't evident now or in the future.)

When you get a second chance, grab it with all your might. It is a gesture of the graciousness of God. You never know when that second or third effort will be the one that brings great success to you.

In general, life is hard and unfair, but don't let that get you down. There is always a situation that is worse than the one you're currently facing. Living a life that showcases God's glory makes life worth living, in spite of the difficulties.

Always treat your family and friends as treasures and blessings from the Lord because they are. God strategically placed you in your family of origin and He had divine reasons for doing so. God provided a support system for you; your family and friends make up that system. Love each person in your life well; treat them with dignity; own your wrong-doings and work toward reconciliation. This will pay off in the long run. Mature people can say, "I'm sorry. Will you forgive me." If you have a hard time doing this, it's time to grow up some more.

God is good, always good and can never be anything but good. Let that be the immovable framework within which you put the puzzle pieces of your life.

Love, Murphy

Monday, August 11, 2008

An Important Prayer to God

Importance: HIGH
To: YOU
Date: TODAY
From: GOD
Subject: YOURSELF
Reference: LIFE

This is God...

Today, I will be handling ALL of your problems for you. I do not need your help. So, have a nice day. I love you.

P.S. And, remember... If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do not attempt to resolve it yourself!

Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box.
I will get to it in MY TIME.
All situations will be resolved, but in My time, not yours.

Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto it by worrying about it.
Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life now.

Try to think of things like this:

If you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair. There are people in this world for whom driving is an unheard of privilege.

Should you have a bad day at work; think of the man who has been out of work for years.

Should you despair over a relationship gone bad; think of the person who has never known what it's like to love and be loved in return.

Should you grieve the passing of another weekend; think of the woman in dire straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her children.

Should your car break down, leaving you miles away from assistance; think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.

Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror; think of the cancer patient in chemo who wishes she had hair to examine.

Should you find yourself at a loss and pondering what is life all about, asking what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who didn't live long enough to get the opportunity.

Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse. You could be one of them!

Should you decide to send this to a friend; Thank you. You may have touched their life in ways you will never know! Now, you have a nice day.

God


A note from me:
God has seen you struggling, God says it's over.
A blessing is coming your way.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Making Marriage Work

Making a marriage work starts way before the wedding ceremony. It starts way before pronouncing the vows and saying, "I do."

Making a marriage work starts with an instilled value system and a determined mindset which develops when we are children. Most of us keep our commitments and our covenants because we learned the value of keeping our promises while we were growing up.

How does one develop this kind of value system?

When a young person watches his or her parents faithfully keep their vows in marriage, it solidifies the inherent value of keeping one's word of honor. When a young person witnesses their parents choosing to stay together; choosing to make their marriage work through the good times and the hard times, it reinforces the value of being true to one's word.

When a couple chooses to work through their problems centered around:

rearing children and parenting styles
in-laws
boundaries with extended family members
finances
effective communication
physical and sexual intimacy
diversity in problem solving
health issues
navigating through disappointments and setbacks
spiritual issues and differences
conflict resolution
being able to work as a team
infidelity
career setbacks

... their children witness what a healthy marriage looks like. When we "see" something done correctly, it is a lot easier to implement that behavior into our own lives. This is a form of modeling. Knowing theories about success in marriage is one thing (a good thing), but actually seeing one's parents work hard at creating a successful marriage is much more effective. Seeing someone practice keeping their word of honor; keeping their vows is a powerful teaching tool. It helps to instill that same value in the person who witnessed such positive behavior.

Watching parents treat one another with respect and dignity (even when they are not in agreement) is a power dynamic to witness. When a husband and wife can agree to disagree, when they don't get angry with one another when they have differing opinions, it lays the foundation for their children to do the same when they get married.

Seeing things done in a positive and Godly way is the absolute best teacher. However, God can teach us how to do things His way even if our parents didn't do things His way. It is sort of like a "reverse application" system. If you saw your parents do everything wrong, you simply do the reverse of what you saw. This works beautifully and God is faithful to help you gain whatever skills you need to keep your marital covenant.

10 Big Mistakes Parents Make

By Craig Playstead

1) Spoiling kids - There is no doubt that parents love their kids and want them to have all the things they didn’t. However, this comes at a price. A ton of well-intentioned parents have ended up spoiling their kids to such a degree that the kids aren’t even happy with all the stuff they have. This causes them to never be satisfied and always want more. Junior doesn’t need one more piece of junk, what he needs is some special time with his parents. Think of it this way: How will they ever be prepared for disappointment throughout their life—or learn to be thankful for anything?

2) Inadequate discipline - When you’re too lazy to adequately discipline your kids, you pass the little devil you’ve created on to your relatives, coaches, teachers, and his friends’ parents. It’s not OK to let your kids treat your house like it was a Jump Planet (i.e. jumping on furniture) because that’s exactly how they’ll treat other people’s homes. They should also be much better behaved when they leave the house and visit elsewhere. I’ve lived through this nightmare first-hand, with the same kid at my house treating my $1,500 couch like a trampoline, and then calling my daughter “ugly” while the kids were eating dinner. All within a 15-minute span. If you don’t discipline your kid, someone else will—and you won’t like it.

3) Failing to get involved at school - School is where your kids will spend more time than any place besides your home. It’s also the place that will have the most responsibility for shaping their life—from teachers and their peers. That being said, how can you not want to be involved in what’s going on there? It doesn’t matter if it’s you or your spouse: Your family needs to have a presence at that school. And don’t use work as an excuse—take a vacation day if you need to. You’ll see immediately that it’s time well spent. You should also have at least an e-mail relationship with their teacher. It’s a great way for that teacher to see that you’re interested in your child’s development, and the teacher can alert you to any concern that may be going on with your son or daughter. Your kid’s teacher may take a much more active role with your child if they know you’re keeping close tabs.

4) Praising mediocrity - While we all want to encourage our kids to do well and build their self-esteem, there is a point of going too far. Building a child’s self-esteem is great, but having a big party for a mediocre accomplishment skews what they view as a real achievement. One big place I see this is in sports; (another is chores around the house.)

5) Not giving kids enough responsibility - Your kids shouldn’t be expecting any payment for doing chores around the house. It’s a home, not a hotel. That being said, an allowance is a great idea … for extra work. They should be pulling their weight as part of the family. If they grow up without enough responsibility, how in the world do you expect them to hold down a job, or get through college? When they get “of age,” make sure they’re taking some of the burden off you around the house—from unloading the dishwasher to caring for the family pet. Our children are not our slaves, but they don't have to live as though they are on a perpetual vacation either.

6) Not being a good spouse - How you treat your husband or wife is very important to the way your kids will develop relationships, especially as adults. If you treat your spouse poorly, or if your only way to settle any kind of dispute is to yell and scream at each other, you’re teaching your kids to handle themselves the same way. Kids learn from watching you much more than they learn from listening to you. If you treat your spouse with love and respect, it will show your kids the value of their family. It will also make them feel their family is a safe haven in what can be a dark, scary world.

7) Setting unreal expectations - When dealing with kids, you need to set reasonable expectations for them—especially the little ones. If you want to go out to a nice dinner and expect your 2-year-old to sit there like a little prince, you are setting yourself up for major disappointment. Also, if you have visions of a football star and your son weighs 80 pounds and likes to play the clarinet, you need to reset those expectations. Don’t have unreal expectations for your kids: the expectation you should have is for them to be respectful and responsible.

8) Not teaching kids to fend for themselves - Many parents tend to baby kids these days and cater to their every need, and that eliminates the value of hard work and becoming independent as they grow into adults. I fear that we’re raising a generations of disrespectful, irresponsible wimps. Kids nowadays expect everything to be done for them, from cleaning their room to band-aids for hurt feelings. Teaching them to toughen up and do things on their own doesn’t mean that you love them less; it means you love them more. (We want to equip them for success as adults.)

9) Pushing trends on kids - Let kids be kids. Parents shouldn’t push their trends or adult outlook on life on their kids. Just because it was your life’s dream to marry a rich guy doesn’t mean we need to see your 4-year-old daughter in a “Future Trophy Wife” t-shirt. The same goes for the double ear piercing—that’s what you want, not them. Teaching kids about your passions is great, but let them grow up to be who they are.

10) Not following through - I have trouble with this one sometimes. If you’re telling your kids that they’ll be grounded if they paint the neighbor’s dog one more time, you’d better follow through. Unfortunately, following though on punishments or promises makes your life a little more difficult, but building trust is what’s most important. If you’re not true to your word, your kids will assume anything you say is just talk. Then you have a real problem on your hands. You’ll end up with kids who don’t trust their parents.

Craig Playstead is a freelance writer and happily married father of three living in the suburbs of Seattle. In the past he's also been a sports writer, online editor, and talk show host.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

The Love of Jesus

This is a video from http://www.godtube.com/ that blew me away. I hope the Lord will use it to show you just how much He loves you and how far He will go to protect you.

To view the video, simply click on the following link:

http://www.godtube.com/view_video?viewkey=ee73e63418003b47d7d5


With much love and affection,
murphy

Monday, August 4, 2008

Time Heals All Wounds

At first glance, this saying, "Time heals all wounds," sounds like some old platitude or adage. It's the kind of saying that should have, "Laa tee daa, laa tee daa, " before it and after it. That's because the thought of time healing all wounds sounds just a bit overly simplistic and naive. But, I think that there is a lot of truth to this saying. What about you? In your experience, "Does time really heal all wounds?" Have you personally experienced this kind of healing?

To me, time has the capability of bringing great healing. Our merciful and gracious Father created each of us with the ability to heal: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We will experience a variety of healings while we live on earth. However, make no mistake, our final and most complete healing will take place in heaven as we stand in the presence of God. As Christians, when we enter the throne-room of the Almighty and stand in front of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit, and God, the Father, we will miraculously be made well ... totally well. In His presence, we will be whole.

Think of a time when a spouse, a child, an extended family member, a friend, or a co-worker hurt your feelings. The wound could have been an emotional "scratch" or it could have been more like a severed artery. As time passed, did the wound stop bleeding? Did you regain your emotional and relational strength? In time, were you well enough to re-engage the so-called "perpetrator?" Most of us would have to say, "Yes." In time, the hurt feelings subsided and we felt capable of re-engaging the offender.

The length of time it takes to heal depends on several things:
(1) our spiritual and emotional resiliency
(2) our intimacy with God
(3) the depth of the emotional wounding
(4) the history of previous woundings
(5) how much we want to re-engage or re-connect with the offender

If the hurtful person is your spouse, it could take a shorter amount of time or it could take a much longer amount of time to heal. If the offender is your parent, it could take a few hours to a few years to regain your health, resiliency, and ability to re-engage them.

The length of time it takes to heal is not nearly as important, in my mind, as the fact that we are able to heal. Think of some of the ways you have been wounded and you were able to navigate through the hurt; you were able to heal; and you were able to re-engage the offender/hurtful person. Our ability to heal (in every area) is a miracle. God knew that we would surely need it.

In your life, is there a hurt that needs healing? Has someone "cut" you to the quick, emotionally? Has someone bruised your spirit or bludgeoned your soul? Ask God to heal those wounded places. He will do it. He desires wholeness and wellness for His children. It might take some time, but you will heal.

Blessings to you all. I'll be praying for you and your healing.
Murphy

Friday, August 1, 2008

If We Only Had More Of...

THE FOLLOWING QUALITIES:

Loyalty

Duty

Respect

Selfless-Service

Honor

Integrity

Personal Courage


THE FOLLOWING ETHICS:

I will always place the mission first.

I will never accept defeat.

I will never quit.

I will never leave a fallen comrade.


These were taken from a medal my nephew received while he was in basic training at Fort Bragg, Georgia. James is a sergeant in the Louisiana National Guard. He has served one tour of duty in Baghdad, Iraq for 15 months.

Don't you wish Christians would aspire to live out these character qualities and ethical values? I do. As an exercise in reflection, take each one and meditate on them and see what the Lord tells you about how well you express them in your own life.

Muchly,
Murphy