We are a generation of gratification seekers and fulfill my expectations demanders. What a sad commentary. When our food arrives in 4 minutes instead of 2, we notoriously act out our contempt. How many of us regularly treat others with long-suffering and patience?
We demand dignified treatment from others, but whenever they fail, which undoubtedly they will, we respond with disgruntled disapproval. Every day, we go through our day with a very distinct "back-drop." We want what we want, when we want, and with whom we want; and it should have been delivered yesterday. Much like an undisciplined toddler, we want things NOW.
Being demanding and impatient with those around us leads more to covenant-breaking rather than covenant-keeping. We repel one another because of our immaturity, selfishness, and self-centeredness. We don't consider the fact that it truly takes a life-time for God to heal us from our hurts and conform us into the image of Christ.
Yes, it takes a long, long, ... long, long, ... long, long, long, time for us to grow up. Truly, it takes a life-time.
There are times in our lives when we are given permission from God to "self-protect" in our most intimate relationships. That might require that we cut down the time we spend with some people. We might have to set some clearly stated boundaries in order to regain some deserved respect. It is, however, not uncommon for God to direct us to "get back in there" with someone who has been very tough to love.
Humans tend to want to just cut people off at the knees and run away from difficult relationships. How often do we start fresh with people who hurt us. (Now, I'm not saying that if your spouse is beating you up you are supposed to stay in that relationship even if it costs you your life. That would be imprudent.) God will give us His direction as His eternal framework plays itself out.
No matter what happens in your relationships, don't ever give up hope that God is able to change a person's heart. Sometimes a person has to get old and weak for their bitterness, control, and meanness to lose their potency.
Always ask God what He wants you to do. He will direct your path.
Love to you all, Murphy