1. The concept of coaching has been around for thousands of years. It is a positive and powerful relationship between a wise, experienced, positive, motivational, and knowledgeable person who is easy to connect with and trust. This person is the coach.
The coach is engaged by one who understands and believes that he/she could be and do more in various roles and responsibilities in his/her life: spouse, parent, friend, employee, employer, and/or athlete.
Coaching is a forward thinking approach to change and enhanced success.
2. When a person takes the time to seek out and contract with a personal coach, they probably have navigated through the first two stages of change, pre-contemplation and contemplation, and are either approaching the action stage or fully present in the action stage. The one being coached is emotionally, motivationally, intellectually, spiritually, and psychologically READY to do what’s necessary for specific and successful change that is long-lasting.
3. Personal coaching is not simply behavior management; no sticks and carrots are used to mindlessly alter behavior via rewards and punishments.
a. Coaching is based on a positive, healthy, and ethical relationship between the coach and the coachee. It is a relationship of trust, teachability, openness and mutual respect.
b. The coaching relationship is a professional and contractual relationship. Specific items are agreed upon before the coaching takes place, including:
i. Time, frequency, and type of meeting (phone or face-to-face
ii. Fees for coaching are set: price per session or price per month, how fees are to be paid
iii. Length of coaching relationship (3, 6, 9, or 12 months)
iv. The coaches interactions and conduct are based on an accepted set of professional ethics
c. A coach meets the coachee where he/she is.
d. A coach skillfully approaches the coachee and facilitates the coachee’s journey through a specific coaching theory. One clear-cut and simple to remember model is by Dr. Jeffery Auerbach, entitled the G. O. O. D. approach:
i. G – Set goals
ii. O – Brainstorm about various options
iii. O – Be mindful of evident and hidden obstacles, which need to be addressed in order to achieve success.
iv. D – The coach and coachee decide what the coachee is to “do” that week
e. A skillful coach using the art of questioning and the G. O. O. D. model can help a coachee discover whether there is hierarchy of goals or a specific order of goals.
For example, a coachee may believe he/she is ready to start a new business in a new city. However, through dialogue, self-examination, and reasoning, the coach and the coachee realize that the coachee has not fully grieved leaving a 20+-year business in another region of the country. They both agree that before building a new business, the coachee must thoroughly process all the changes, which have recently taken place. Once the grieving process has been addressed, THEN, the coachee will be ready with the proper energy and motivation to begin building a new business.
4. Personal coaching is highly successful because the coachee conceptualizes what his/her goals are and what the best options are to achieve success. Since the coachee is the driving force in setting their goals, an automatic “buy-in” is created for the coachee. Their “buy-in” is a key to motivation and endurance. The coach is a facilitator, reflector, and illuminator. The coachee’s values and strengths are highlighted and fully engaged in the entire process. As specific, personal weaknesses or roadblocks are discovered, they are viewed as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles.
5. On a personal level, having been coached both personally and professionally; I can attest that every time I have utilized coaching I have had both positive and productive results. EVERY TIME! In a one-time 10-20 minute coaching exercise, one can experience a deeply positive and productive out come.